Facing Problem Behavior | Coaching Instead of Blaming

😠Instead of: accusing "No, stop!"

😀It’s better to: Guidance “Let’s give it a try, why don’t I help you...”

Children often lose their temper and get into mischief. Of course, parents know that they need to teach their children that this is not okay, no, shouting and yelling will not solve the problem! Stop it, no more noise!

The adults couldn't help but lose their tempers at the same time...

Negative criticism: "You are not allowed to walk around" only means that if you are not allowed to do something, what should you do? Failure to help children improve their behavior problems and constant blaming will only make children more resistant and the parent-child relationship will become worse and worse.

Positive guidance: "Let's try to sit down together, put our hands on our knees, hold on to the stool, let me help you, and see if we can do it first~" With clearly stated goals, clear guidance, no negative emotions in the tone, and patient assistance with practice, children's motivation to learn will be greatly improved.

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Let’s share some common cases of children with autism:

Case 1: Escape or avoidance of task

😠Instead of: blaming the children for not working hard, "So lazy, neither doing anything nor studying!"

😀Why not: face it together and help tide over the difficulties, "Is it so difficult to tie a baby? You don't know how to do it? How about I help you!"

Case 2: Verbal stimulation

😠Compared to: No sound allowed, weird labels, "Shuuuu! No weird noises!"

😀How about: Redirect the conversation and discover new interests, "How about we tell you a trick and teach you how to play a new game!"

Case 3: Harassment, screaming, attention seeking

😠Instead of: neglecting, ignoring, criticizing, "Don't stop me from doing what I am doing, let me do it myself."

😀It’s better to: arrange time, accompany and pay attention to you regularly, “Hey, be good, wait a while, and play with you for a while.”

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Of course, individual treatment methods need to be formulated after understanding the real cause of the behavior.

However, the same thing, change the perspective, change the mood.

Changing your thinking mode and improving your tone of voice can greatly improve the parent-child relationship and improve the children's feelings. You might as well give it a try💛